Hey guys, I been losing motivation lately because I am being make fun off by my classmates and some goos friends, they would always call me names such Mr protein, Mr musclewannabe or call me that I secretly take steriod and laught at me, another thing they say that make me sad is that they would say sry no bodybuilders allow here and ask me fk of. I always beg them to stop but they would jist make fun of me and continue laughing and I always wonder why are they my friends if theu dont care. They would also take ulgy picture or me and do stupid stuff, just because I am ulgy doesnt mean they have to do this. But I lose motivation also is because the better my physical get the more they will make fun of me then accpeting me so. So if anyone could help or take me hkw to deal with this crap pls help...

They alway make picture like this to laught at me

Hey man, the younger crew tends to act like that when all they need to do is grow up. You're better than that. It really doesn't matter age because there will always be someone trying to bring you down. You have to do you and be you, if this is the life style you want to live being healthy, big and strong then you got to brush them off. You're right how could friends do stuff like that? Sometimes if they take things to far and don't give you respect then you need to re evaluate your friends. Show them you're confident in who you are and love what you do. One day they will envy you and be way far behind and they'll be asking you how do you do this? How do you get all these girls? Brush them off man, if they know they are getting to you they will continue doing what they do.

This just sounds like your friends are jealous of you. Here you are making good progress, building strenght and muscle. Your friends simply can not accept that you keep getting better and better, they do not want you to surpass them. It sounds like you need to find some new friends, because the ones who laugh at you for being healthy do not have any idea of how good you are doing. They only make fun of you because you are stronger and look better, they do it because they do not know what else to do. My advice: Find a new set of friends, tell your old friends to get away from your life so that you can be more positive and feel better.

Darren,

I know this is very hard especially at your age. Kids can be cruel and hateful. Don't let others define who you are. If lifting weights and bodybuilding is a passion of yours, don't let anyone stop you from pursuing it. Trust me, when you are older and in high school and beyond this will change. Many will admire you for what you have built with your body, girls will take notice, and guys will be jealous and some may even reach out to you for advice on how to lift.

Wear pumping iron like a badge of honor. If they say "no bodybuilders allowed here" tell your self "damn straight, I don't want to hang around with pencil-neck geeks anyways" and move on. Don't let the steroid talk bother you. As long as you stay natural all your life, this is just noise. Many people's perceptions of bodybuilders are they are all on drugs. This is your opportunity to prove them all wrong. Take the high road, stay motivated, keep lifting, and realize this is all just noise from jealous, immature bone-heads :-) TRUE friends stick with you and support your pursuits. These people are not your friends - they are all show, no go.

It is all fueled by jealousy because they either are too scared or too stupid to make the effort to lift weights. Don't let their fears/jealousy define your life........be strong for this forum. We are your friends, we understand you, we don't judge, and we will be proud of you and share your accomplishments :-)

John

Hey guys, thx for the info on helping me. I ask them again to stop treating like this and give me some respect they just laught and i told them i was seriously this is where they draw the line when they say they were to hence I ditch them andot new optimistic friends.

Sounds good man ! Keep on going strong !

Good job Darren......you don't need friends like that.

John

I think every successful, even unsuccessful lifter goes through this in the early stages. I started when I was about 14 when I got a bench press and dumbbell set for my birthday. I could barely bench 40 pounds, and was insecure, and also got made fun of during gym time. But my step-dad was a powerlifter that told me some great facts to start: It's not easy...it takes time...but most importantly, you're going to be made fun of, so keep your blinders on and focus on the goal. Here I am, 70 pounds heavier, 12 years later (50 of it is muscle, I did gain some fat in the process, but it's winter weight), and people STILL make fun of me and say I take steroids. I have very few friends, but I know I can count on them with my life, and they NEVER say that stuff to me.

My recommendation will be like my step-dad told me: You're GOING to receive insults, and to those people you need to ignore. Yes, it's hard, but what the unsuccessful people don't know is you need just as much mental strength as you do physical to do this. If those friends really are your friends, they'll apologize and come back. If not, oh well, a REAL friend accepts you for who you are...no matter how much you weigh, how big your biceps or chest are, none of that. Stay strong both physically and mentally, and good people will take notice.

P.S. I see the people that bully me today, and they are where I was 12 years ago, and I'm where they want to be. One came up to me and asked why I don't make fun of him (because he's out of shape) and I said, "Only the weak insult people that are down, I'm not weak. I pick others up when they need it, because I'm strong enough to."

Lots of great support in this thread.

@fitontheflood, I can relate to you. In fact most people can. We have all been made fun of for doing what we love. My older brother and his friends would pick on me every day.

They would say "Are you going to lift weights today?" and then would proceed to push me, punch me, and throw things at him. Sometimes I was lucky and just got beat with a rolled up piece of constuction paper.

People are just mean bro. You need to use their negativity to drive you to push yourself harder to reach your goals. If you let them get to you, you will give up and none of us want to see that.

I am so proud of you man. The fact that you would even come here and ask for help shows that you have the courage to overcome anything. Your friends pick on you and make fun of you because at the end of the day they are too lazy to exercise and are jealous of you.

But none of that will matter when you are older. Believe me. You are a young man, focus on school, your training, and you will find out who your true friends are.

Also, you are not ugly man. You are a good looking kid and soon you will have big arms, ripped abs and won't care what anyone says.

IF you need any help with your meal plan or routine please ask. We are here to help you! #HTH

Darren my man,
Don't pay attention to what these kids are saying. While they're busy smoking weed and messing around, you're getting in shape and making gains! Your determination at a younger age is inspiring to me, and I'm a 21 year old man! I get the same kind of hate from other guys. In all cases, they don't lift, they're small and out of shape, and generally insecure people. They joke that I'm on steriods or critcize for me eating healthy and taking protein etc. Some even go as far as to call me gay or f*ggot because I lift and aren't shy to post pictures of my gains on Instagram. If you look at the comments on someone like Scott Herman's youtube videos, you'll see that even someone who is as lean and strong and muscular as him gets made fun of and called gay and other small and insignificant insults. These comments come from small and insignificant people who will never aspire to be anything close to as successful and motivated as you, me, Scott, or any other bodybuilder that gets made fun of. The hate only makes me more eager to prove them wrong. Because at the end, if you push forward, you'll be successful and they'll still be struggling to accomplish the minor things. Stay strong bro, you are better than that!

i've got nothing more to add,just focus on what everyone said ^
i just comment so you can feel the support :D

Hey dude.

Before i tell you something about myself I want you to think about why you are lifting and I am quite sure you will realise that you are doing it for yourself.

About 1.5 years back I started lifting and I had siilar issues as you had, I had alot of people in my vicinity that were negative toward what i was doing and were making fun of it and complaining saying I was boring cause i didnt go out drinking with them, that I was wasting my time etc etc. This dragged me down immensely and made me question why I was doing what I did. But when I started to think about it I realised just as you probably will that I didnt do it for them or for anyone else, I did it for me. So I removed everyone that were having a negative effect on me cause they were keeping me from reaching the goals I had setup for myself. Not only my lifting goals but also my life goals. They made me question what I wanted to acheive with my life. Do not let this happen to you by keeping the negative people around you in your life.

As a major movie and video game geek i have a great source of inspiration in Mr Arnold himself. It might seem cheesy but I love his motivational speech and its something I listen to daily and in it he says something very important "Ignore the nay sayers". Only way i know how these days is when ever someone says i cant I scream inside that I can. Everytime I fail i push harder cause nothing is more important to me than my own success.

This link is from some random guys youtube channel but its one of the best videos out there (sorry if I am not allowed to do links) but when ever you doubt yourself this is a good source of inspiration for me and maybe for you aswell. So keep pushing hard, keep beleiving in yourself, work hard, ignore and remove the negative people and aspects in your life and never give up on yourself.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EyhOmBPtGNM

@fitontheflood look at all of the posts above - everyone here, they have your back man.

Do you know why those guys are probably making fun of you? To make themselves feel better. They think that maybe if they can bring you down, they won't feel so bad about themselves. It's all a cover up. You don't need friends like that. But use that as motivation too. Put that anger into your weights.

Mr Protein, Mr Musclewannabe - embrace that. I mean, that is you, right? That's all of us. Hell, if you're into fitness and you don't like protein, you're in the wrong business haha. And we all want to be big, strong, and muscular. If we didn't, why would we even be on this journey?

You have plenty of support here, and if you go to a gym with other people, talk to them, get to know some of them. They have the same passions as you, and chances are that they won't make fun of you because guess what - they were probably in your situation at some point too.

Train hard man! #HTH

Sorry for writing in capital letters, but: YOU ARE NOT UGLY.

Don't you ever say anything negative like that to yourself, my dear. I see a sweet young boy with huge potential and the drive to make the best of himself.

You are the reason all these airheads feel intimidated. So the only way for them to cope with their own insecurity is to try and bring you down. Don't let them succeed. And please don't call them 'friends'. We all know what friends are for.

Keep your head up and use their stupidity for your own mental growth.

xo - Kassi

My brotha, those dudes bringing you down are most certainly NOT your friends. Friends are supportive. There's a difference between lighthearted teasing between friends and being malicious and hateful, and this seems to be the latter. It sounds like your'e an awesome guy, and you have your priorities straight, and these people most certainly do not. It's important to remember that they're making fun of you because they're jealous, man. They don't have the willpower and dedication to do what you do. They wish they could have enough self-discipline to employ proper training and nutrition. Colloquially, we call these dudes haters. And, as we all know, haters gonna hate. Remember, whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you!!

KEEP doing your thing man, don't stop!! Let these idiots keep mirin', and you keep being positive. I was very seriously bullied for the first half of my life, so I know where you're coming from and how you feel. I'd say cut these fools out of your life, you don't need that kind of negativity. And guess what - when you look back in this in five years, when you're jacked as hell and probably succeeding in your personal endeavors, these guys will be in the same place doing the same shit they're doing right now, not having made any progress. Leave people like that behind man. It's actually pathetic that they have nothing better to do with their time...maybe they should use that time to get in the gym. Stay positive brotha, don't let the peanut gallery affect you. You just gotta let the clowns be clowns and do your thing. We're always up in here to talk if you need to, feel free to holla!!

Keep your goal in mind.
you are going to out run and out look them soon enough.

They are trying to hold you down, because they can't bring up enough willpower to follow the same path.

For some it simply migth not be "their thing" and they have other hobbies - fair enough - but that still does not entitle them to judge your hobbies or sport.

We all went through this. And even if you are an adult people will make silly comments about it. But don't worry there will be the same amount of compliments and people actually acknowleding what you are doing.

I say it with the words of a wise man: "if you own a moment, nothing can ever make you look silly" meaning: if you are selfconfident, and if you believe in what you do, nothing can ever make you look silly when doing it. And see it as a test, you learn now already what it means when others are disrespectful or mean, and see it as opportunity to learn how to deal with it. And you did y great step telling them off, and going your own ways.

You will find better friends. .. and believe me, 1 good friend is worth more than 100 half-arsed friends, who'd only like you as long as you are like them :)

PS, one really important tip, as ypu asked how to deal with this:

ignore it - don't give them the feeling that 'anything' they say could even remotely touch or reach you.
the less you 'react' the faster they are going to give up.. because.. it's only fun for them as long as they have an impact on you.

If they can't get any reaction from you they will become bored and have to find someone else to make fun of.

This always works. =)